It’s the last week of February. It has been confirmed from various sources that 80% of people abandon their New Year’s Resolutions by the second week of this month.
A large research study predicts that the most common day for people to drop their resolutions is actually January 19th. This study has now named this date “Quitter’s Day”.
In part 1 of “Screw Resolutions” , I promised a part 2 to give more details and specifics about all of this. I will also be sharing some personal experience and resources that I use in my New Year’s goal setting and throughout the year.
Why are people saying “Screw Resolutions”?
- There wasn’t much attachment to the resolution in the first place
- The resolution wasn’t broken down into specific, measurable goals and action steps – lack of clarity
- Conditions are not set up for success
- All or nothing thinking – perfectionism – the absence of celebrating progress
- Focusing on the “fails”
- Lack of accountability and support
- Lack of planning & patience
- Unrealistic expectations
Alright, so what to do instead?
- Get very clear about your priorities and passions
- How will you and others benefit from you pursuing them?
- Give yourself permission to go after what you want
- Make decisions – decide what you are saying “yes” to and what are you saying “no” to
- Create goals and from there, develop small, specific action steps
- Set up conditions for success in your environment, schedule, relationships and within yourself
- Develop the mindset that “small hinges swing big doors” and “practice makes progress” – be sure to acknowledge and celebrate your progress
- Focus on opportunities that bring greater awareness and learning opportunities. If you have a slip or fall, get up and begin again
- Enlist accountability and support – this is different for everyone – it could be a therapist, coach, support group, a loved one, a physical resource, visual reminders and so much more.
- Take time to plan and check-in with your goals regularly – be patient – good things grow slow.
My Personal Tips
I said “Screw Resolutions” a long time ago. I did all the things above to shoot myself in the foot. Frustration and discouragement plagued me. Resentment against New Year’s Resolutions gripped me for a long time.
The word “resolutions”, still carries a negative connotation for me. I prefer “goals”, “intentions” and “action steps”. The words I use are so important for me.
Taking small steady steps toward my target has become life-changing. I am learning more patience and perseverance. Some things that I couldn’t live without:
- PowerSheets – this goal planner is amazing and so thorough, not to mention bright, colorful and fun
- Health & Life Coaching
- Accountability and support from loved ones – planned & intentional
- Having visuals everywhere
- Support groups
- Anchor objects
- Automated reminders and lists
- Saying things out loud
- Prayer, meditation and visualization
- Celebrating ALL progress
No more does January 1st come and I choose an unrealistic or insignificant resolution for me. Instead, I order my PowerSheets at the end of the year so I have plenty of time to prep for the year ahead. Then I can start the new year off calm, clear and intentional.
Want to join me on the journey?
I love hearing from you!